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In our first Meltdown lesson, we will look closely into what to do when violence and harm are involved and how to protect yourself. You will learn how energy is your key to everything and what are the Yes’s and No’s during a metldown. If harm and meltdowns aren’t a problem in your life at the moment, make sure to at least watch lesson 2 of this part to learn how to mitigate small everyday harmless problems from becoming meltdowns in the future.
Watch the below videos that illustrate this lesson and make sure to download the supporting PDF workbook.
Something to ponder: What do you generally do when your child is having a meltdown and is being harmful?
Observing Meltdowns
Reasons For Meltdowns
When They're Coming At You
What To Do During A Meltdown
Adjust Accordingly
Practice & Self-Correct
Your Energy Is Your Tool
Give Them What They Want
Observing Meltdowns
Lynette talks about how we should obverse the reasons meltdowns happens, how they look like during and how ours kids are after.
Reasons For Meltdowns
Krystel lists out 9 possible reasons for why meltdowns could happen. These should help you identify potential causes for your child.
When They're Coming At You
Lynette walks you through the imporant rhythm of what to do if your child is physically coming at you.
What To Do During A Meltdown
Krystel walks you step-by-step on what to do and what not to do during a metldown.
Adjust Accordingly
Lynette explains the importance of adjusting your strategy according to your child’s response.
Practice & Self-Correct
Krystel reaffirms that this needs practice and constant self-correction, don’t be hard on yourself and don’t give up.
Your Energy Is Your Tool
Lynette resummarizes how it is your energy that is key to how the meldown and tantrum will unfold.
Give Them What They Want
Krystel clarifies what Lynette means by “give them what they want” and how to do it.
Lesson Takeaways
Potential reasons for meltdowns to identify:
- Someone is talking about them in front of them
- Someone hurt their feelings/bullied
Sensory dislike: Smelling or sound that made them uncomfortable - Not getting enough compliments as they deserve
- No one is explaining what is happening around them
- Poor sleep or body pain/discomfort
- Worried about failing you or others
- Child not having the power of changing the environment
What to do during a meltdown:
- Drop your energy: be super calm in the moment, let your energy lead the way
- No eye contact, look at the floor, say a word but only about support
- No lecturing or no asking questions
- Don’t show emotion, stay calm and only show empathy and support
- Give them time in a calm and safe environment
- Give them what will help them feel better, be heavy, in a matter of fact way, in a slow way, first drop your energy and then solve their problem
- The teaching/lesson comes later
- They’re having a meltdown, i’m not in danger, I drop my energy
- They’re having a meltdown, i’m in danger, I startle it and then i drop my energy
- They’re having a meltdown, i’m in danger, and startling makes it worse, i drop my energy and my whole body to protect myself in a balll
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